Most of us feel uncomfortable in an unknown circle of people and it often evokes a desire in us to take our mobile phone from our pocket and pretend as if we’ve gotten an important message. Still, we all dream about making new acquaintances easily and instantly winning the love of those surrounding us. The good news is that we can learn it from a woman whose incredible charisma could enchant not only a British prince, but also millions of people around the world.
iBuzz analyzed Meghan Markle’s behavior and found out how she manages to instantly induce positive vibes in strangers and win them over.
1. Sincere smile
When you smile at another person, it’s like you’re sending them a message saying: “I like you.” And the person you smile at will likely return your smile. A sincere smile helps you relax and tune in to positive communication.
The Duchess of Sussex knows well that one of the easiest ways to win over a stranger is to compliment them. Together with her husband Harry, they even made a post on Instagram where they encouraged people to compliment and take care of each other. You can praise the new hairstyle of your acquaintance or say a nice word about their accessories, but don’t overact. Pleasant words can help defuse a tense atmosphere and create a conducive environment for communication.
3. Sustaining eye contact
Meghan Markle tries to always look into the eyes of the person she is talking to and she does it right. Eye contact has a lot of power: it lets you show your good attitude without words, understand another person’s mood, and win over an audience. For example, a teacher who is giving a lecture and looking at the students’ eyes will be listened to more carefully than a teacher who is looking down and reading their lecture from their notes. In order to be remembered, try to hold your opponent’s gaze during the conversation. That will help them to feel that you find them interesting.
4. Positive mood
Meghan Markle always appears in a good mood when in public, that’s why it’s not surprising that people are willing to make eye contact with her. According to the research done by scientists at Ohio State University and the University of Hawaii, people can unconsciously feel the emotions of their surroundings. Experts claim that it’s probably connected with the fact that we naturally copy the mimic and behavior of other people, which in turn makes us feel something that they are feeling. That’s why if you want to make those in your surroundings feel happy, you should try to broadcast positive emotions.
5. The chameleon effect
In order to win over the person you’re speaking to, Meghan uses the psychological method of mirroring. In 1999, scientists at New York University documented the so-called chameleon effect, which is an unconscious imitation of another person’s behavior that occurs during communication between 2 people. The research has shown that these actions promote liking between people. So if you want to make a stranger like you, start to slightly copy their gestures, facial expressions, and voice volume.
6. Turning toward the person you’re speaking to
You can understand whether a person is interested in you or not by looking at the direction of their feet. If a person’s feet point at you, it’s likely that they would like to communicate with you. If their feet are turned to a different side, then this person is not interested in mingling with you. By paying attention to this fact, you will be able to decide which group of people you should join an unfamiliar company. In the photo above, you can see that the woman showed her interest in the duchess and Meghan reacted to it accordingly.
7. Touching hair
Many people have noticed that Meghan often touches and corrects her hair in public. Some people think that it’s a sign of increased anxiety, but there is also another explanation. If a girl feels interested in someone, she automatically starts to touch her hair. That’s how she flirts with the person she’s speaking with and subconsciously demonstrates her good attitude. That’s why, in order to non-verbally show the person you’re speaking with that you find them interesting, try to accidentally touch your hair. However, don’t overdo it, otherwise, it will seem from the outside that you feel extremely nervous.
8. Speaking not only about yourself
Meghan Markle knows how important the ability to listen is when communicating with others. People like to talk about themselves and like when others listen to them until the end. Don’t rush to take the initiative in the communication, but instead ask the person you are talking to clarifying questions. If you let someone share a couple of stories from their life, instead of rambling on about your own, it will create fond memories of meeting you.
9. Touching the person you are talking to
Meghan doesn’t feel shy about slightly touching the person she’s talking to during public events. This could be a light touch on the hand or, for example, a pat on the back. Take note of this trick, as it is believed that personal contact contributes to liberation and the continuation of further conversation. At the same time, it’s important to not cross a person’s personal boundaries and to not look intrusive.
10. Genuine emotions
Despite the fact that the British royal family is supposed to behave modestly, Meghan always openly shows her emotions. And that’s what we need to learn from her. Indeed, there is a risk that you might be mistakenly interpreted in an unknown group of people, nevertheless, sincerity is an important feature for building friendly relationships. In order to relax and feel comfortable, imagine that you are in a circle of good friends and loved ones.
Do you pay attention to the gestures and mimics of the person you are talking to? Which things from this article’s list attract you to people?